it’s that time of the year [finals week] and so here is a post of useful things via myself and my mom who is a teacher !!
- techniques for studying and learning
- time management
- help on reading and research
- help with memorizing and testing
- learn how to study
- how to write an essay
- google citations
- googling tips
- citing social media
- yoga poses for stress relief
- about relaxation techniques
- 4 hours of classical music
- good background study mixes i ii iii iv v
study break tips
- really good basic tips
- MIT study break tips
- how to be productive on a break
- study snacks i ii iii
- how long to nap
- how to pull an all-nighter
good luck everyone !!
1. HORMONES MAKE TEAR PRODUCTION HARDER FOR MEN, EASIER FOR WOMEN.
Think men don’t cry as often because they’re “strong” or lack emotion? Well, you can’t cry if you don’t have the tears to do it. Before puberty, girls and boys cry in equal amounts, and for pretty much the exact same reasons. When puberty hits and we get our hormones on (testosterone for the fellas and prolactin for ladies), our ability to PRODUCE tears changes. Testosterone may inhibit tear production in men, while prolactin actually makes crying easier (and encourages it) for women. Though the experience of feeling emotion may be exactly the same between the sexes, men’s bodies are simply less likely to produce tears as a response (while women’s bodies may produce them automatically, especially in response to stress). This hormonal difference also means that in situations where men & women BEGIN to cry, men may be able to shut down the reflex more easily, whereas women may have a much harder time holding them back. Women with especially high prolactin levels (preggers, post-preggers, hormonally imbalance like me, etc) may find they can cry almost indefinitely when emotions run high. I call it “leaking”, lol. In general, women are QUEENS of the “good, long cry”. Women may produce more tears than normal when depressed/anxious because of higher levels of tear producing stress hormone.
For men trying to understand a female cry response, it’s kind of like a boner for your eyeballs: sometimes it happens for no reason and you can’t shut it off right away EVEN when you desperately wanna. That’s not to say women are emotionally irrational or somehow unable to function when crying: we just have a physical response to emotion that makes us more likely to express it with tears. Tears (or lack of tears) are also NOT an indicator of depth of feeling or lack of emotion: a man can be devastated and simply be unable to produce tears (or will produce just a few). A woman can be mildly upset or stressed and cry whole heartedly."
Huh. That explains some things.
Reblogging to add more sources: Is it true that women’s tears contain an enzyme that can be released only by crying, meaning they are quicker to cry under emotional stress?
Tears of Men and Women Are Different; Why It Can Be Hard to Avoid Choking Up
Do women cry more than men? (via maichan808)
Speaking as a transman who has started testosterone, this is absolutely true. I would start crying much more easily pre-t and now it’s damnably hard to start, especially in situations where I just want a good cry like I used to.
I’m sorry, I just can’t get over the phrase “boners for your eyeballs.”
Well fucking shit, no wonder I can’t cry anymore. I hate not being able to, it was so useful and cathartic.
Well, that explains a bit, lord knows I’ve felt urges to cry but it just never happened. I assumed I was broken or unaffected or something.
Anyone who knows me knows that I cry at the drop of a hat. Now I feel better about it. But I still feel sorry for the hat.
Self esteem is how you feel about yourself – and whether you respect and value who you are. It is very different from self-confidence which relates to our talents, abilities and skills. In summary, self esteem includes:
1. Our core beliefs about ourselves – and whether we agree with others’ views of us (our worth or value as a human being).
2. Our sense of control, or the influence we have, over who we become and what happens to us.
(Note: People with an internal locus of control see themselves as being in charge of their own destiny. In contrast, those with an external locus of control tend to see themselves as being helpless victims of others.)
3. Our sense of belonging, and unconditional acceptance, amongst our family members, colleagues, friends and peers. This is a measure of our lovability.
4. Our sense of being able to meet life’s challenges and to cope successfully with what life sends our way. This is a measure of our capability.
We know success is related to a healthy self-esteem, so how can we work on enhancing this?
1. First, stop comparing yourself to other people. Set your own expectations and personal goals – and take the steps you need to walk towards, and reach, your goals.
2. Identify and celebrate your qualities and strengths – and keep on adding to that growing list each day. For example, are you the kind of person who’s always there for others? Are you creative, logical or practical? Are you friendly, caring, thoughtful, helpful and outgoing? Do you like to try new things, and have a real sense of adventure?
3. Be committed to growing and changing as a person. Read books on self improvement and on personal growth. What you do with your time will affect who you become.
4. Watch and challenge your thinking and self talk. One of the greatest hurdles to building self esteem is constantly attacking and putting yourself down. Instead, be affirming, positive, and notice your achievements. You’re committed, and progressing, so you’ll reach the goals you’ve set.
5. We may have limited control of our external world as our teachers or our boss may dictate much of our day. But let your home be your castle, a place where you retreat to relax, recharge your batteries, and find yourself.
6. Hang out with positive people. If you hang out with people who are always negative – and only whine and complain – then it will drain your energy. But individuals who believe in and work towards success will inspire and encourage you to walk that road as well. Thus, their positivity will raise your self-esteem.
It’s essay writing season for tons of students!
After being a college writing tutor for over a year, I thought I would share my advice with all you awesome people on tumblr. This is how I write essays, but if you’ve got more tips, feel free to add them below.
Happy writing. You can do it!
I NEED TO LEARN
Its literally like shes wearing a mask
that aint even her face
its a mask of powder and well placed bronzer
THAT’S THE BEAUTY OF MAKEUP THO IT IS AN ART YOU CAN LITERALLY TRANSFORM YOURSELF TO MAKE YOU LOOK ON THE OUTSIDE HOW YOU FEEL ON THE INSIDE #TEAMCAPS
So I accidentally started playing 25 different pop punk songs in 25 different tabs.
MY ABSOLUTE NEW FAVOURITE POST. JESUS CHRIST. YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW. ALL OF THIS.
How the fuck do you do this on accident.
HOW THE FUCK DO YOU OPEN TWENTY FIVE SONGS BY MISTAKE
OH MY GOD
I FUCKING LOVE POP PUNK SO MUCH I JUST WANT TO KICK A HOLE IN THE WALL WITH HAPPINESS THIS POST MAKES ME SO HAPPY
1. Massage your ears. The ear massage is a fantastic way to release endorphins in your brain and make you feel good. Start by gently rubbing your earlobes with your thumb and index finger. Then squeeze the outer edges of your ears all the way to the top. These parts of your ears have tiny reflex points that can relax specific areas of your body. Finish by using your index fingers and middle fingers to massage behind the ears on the bony part of your skull.
2. Finger paint. Finger painting allows you to have fun, be artistic and play in a child like way. It gives you permission to express your creativity and spontaneity without expectations.
3. Declutter. Take note of how much stuff you have lying around your room. Then, get rid of anything and everything you don’t use or need. It’s easier to relax when you are not surrounded by stuff – especially stuff like, work, electronics and even reading materials because your subconscious mind then feels you’ve things to do.
4. Try laughing yoga. We all know that laughter has a wonderful effect on our mood and is one of the best feel good things we can do. However, the opportunity to laugh like this doesn’t always come easily and often. A fun and crazy way to make yourself laugh uncontrollably is to find (google) a class, club or yoga studio in your area that offers laughing yoga.
daisy meeting her new sister for the first time…. I think she likes her
This is the most glorious pug compilation I have ever seen.
- Aokigahara: Suicide Forest
- How to Mend a Broken Heart
- How Much is Your Dead Body Worth?
- I Am Alive
- The Dark Side of Porn: The Real Animal Farm
- Real Life Hannibal Lecters
- Pornography: The Secret History of Civilisation
- Louis Theroux- Extreme Love: Dementia
- Graphic Sexual Horror
- Saving Face
- Mental: A History of the Madhouse
- National Geographic: Moment of Death
- Elephant Man Autopsy
- SICK: The Life and Death of Bob Flanagan
- Blood & Guts: A History of Surgery
- National Geographic: Secrets of the Body Farm
- My Flesh and Blood
- Terry Pratchett: Choosing to Die
- Bulgaria’s Abandoned Children
In no particular order, though, but these are some of my favourite documentaries, for various reasons.
I should mention that most (if not all) of these documentaries call for viewer discretion, as some do deal with topics/imagery that can be disturbing/offensive to some people.
Sure! Here are some books that I read around that age:
- The Song of the Lark by Willa Cather. It’s a coming of age story about a young, female singer so if you’re interested in pursuing the creative arts, it’s an especially lovely read!
- Brave New World by Aldous Huxley. One of the original dystopian novels, that has a lot of extremely interesting commentary on humanity, colonialism, etc. Not as difficult as 1984, so it’s better for younger ages
- The Ministry of Fear by Graham Greene. I love Greene because he’s a great introductory author into Modernism. If you want to try out some more difficult classic authors, like Woolf or Joyce, I would highly recommend trying this book first.
- Vile Bodies by Evelyn Waugh. Not my favorite Waugh novel, but he’s such an incredible writer that they’re all wonderful. It’s a fun, sardonic read - highly enjoyable.
- Slaughterhouse Five by Kurt Vonnegut. Because it’s not really adolescence if you don’t read some Vonnegut during it.
• Accidentally close a tab? Ctrl+Shift+T reopens it.
• Bananas release dopamine, eat them when you’re sad.
• CTRL+SHIFT+ESC is the one handed version of CTRL+ALT+DEL
• Don’t brush your teeth hard, it makes them sensitive and removes enamel.
• Don’t like spiders? Put citronella oil on your walls and they will not go there.
• Drink one glass of water for every alcoholic drink you have, you’ll get drunk without getting a hangover.
• Get clear ice cubes by boiling water before freezing it
• Heal paper cuts and immediately stop the pain with chapstick.
• If you accidentally write on your dry erase board with a permanent marker, scribble over it with a dry eraser marker to remove it.
• If your shoes smell, put them in the freezer overnight, it will kill the bacteria.
• Make bug bites stop itching with a banana peel.
• Make a paper longer with 12-point text, but 14-point periods and commas.
• Need to get around a blocked website at work? Try replacing the http:// with https://
• Never send your resume as a word file (unless asked) Instead, save it to a pdf file, it’s much cleaner and professional looking.
• Pick a flavor of gum you don’t normally chew, and chew it while studying during a test.
• Place a piece of bread in a container with your homemade cookies and they will stay soft.
• Put a dry towel into a dryer with wet clothes, they will dry faster.
• Put toothpaste on a pimple and it will dry out.
• Practise fake smiling in the mirror every day before going to work/school, you’ll genuinely start to feel happier.
• Rub canola/olive oil on knives before cutting onions, you won’t cry, alternatively chew gum and you won’t either.
• Short on time with a wrinkled dress shirt? Hang it up in the bathroom while showering to steam it flat.
• The night before, place things you don’t want to forget the next morning on top of your shoes.
• Use hydrogen peroxide to remove blood stains from clothing.
• When cleaning windows use newspapers or coffee filters instead of paper towels, they will not leave streaks.
• When microwaving bread products/pizza put a glass of water in with it, it will keep your bread from going spongy.
• When you move into a new place you’re renting, take pictures of any and all damage, then post them on facebook (privately if preferred) so you can use the reference date as proof you didn’t do it.
• When searching plane tickets online delete your cookies prior, prices go up when you visit a site multiple times.